Son of Ravi Zacharias lashes out as people call for accountability

Nathan Zacharias, the son of the late apologist Ravi Zacharias spoke out on social media regarding the allegations of sexual misconduct which have been mounting against his father who died last spring.

His statement is Biblically illiterate and poorly reasoned. The attitude from the younger Zacharias is much of what is wrong with the approach that Christians too often take to these scandals and so I wanted to highlight some of his points and why they’re problematic.

in either case (innocent or guilty), I think the way this has been discussed by Christian media and leaders is an absolute disgrace.

Really?

Many Christians (sadly, myself included) ignored this scandal when we started to hear murmurings of allegations in 2017. More information has come to light, and Ravi’s own ministry has confirmed truth to allegations of sexual misconduct. Yet, many still want to give Ravi a pass, explain away the allegations, talk about his great ministry.

What’s disgraceful in how the media has covered this and how leaders have talked about it? The only thing disgraceful is to minimize his behavior. It is not a disgrace to ask questions, to care about the victims, and to want the truth.

Regarding some specific individuals who were once my colleagues, how “brave” you are to aggressively take on on a man who can’t even defend himself

This is the weakest argument that can be made in Ravi’s defense. Since Ravi’s dead, he can’t defend himself. In 2017, allegations about a sexting scandal came to light. Instead of owning up to his actions, Ravi paid off his victim to sign an NDA, and then talked to Christianity Today and painted her as the aggressor and himself as the victim.

So spare me “he can’t defend himself.” He lied to save himself during his lifetime. Because he lied, the truth wasn’t more commonly known sooner.

attack his grieving family who is far more hurt and blindsided by this situation than you can ever be

I think that anyone who has any compassion feels bad for the Zacharias family. They’re also impacted by Ravi’s sin. They have to deal with the public disgrace. They’re robbed of opportunities to mend their relationships with Ravi.

The family shouldn’t be attacked. But there are legitimate areas to question the motivations of the family. Ravi’s widow could lift the aforementioned NDA, but hasn’t. I’m sure she’s suffered greatly. But as Ravi’s ministry has an “investigation” into the allegations, there should be total transparency and that’s not possible with NDAs.

God chose to spare Dad from all this by calling him home when we did. But how “virtuous” of you to insist that you hand out the relentless punishment and humiliation that God saw no place for in dad’s lifetime.

This is where the theological reasoning starts to go sideways. What relevance does this point have to investigating what happened? Ravi is gone, but he has victims who are still alive and who have to live with what Ravi did.

Just because someone dies, that does not mean that the impact of their sins goes away and that we have to ignore what someone has done.

how “virtuous” of you to insist that you hand out the relentless punishment and humiliation that God saw no place for in dad’s lifetime.

How do you know that this isn’t a divinely ordained judgment now?

I would also say I disagree that this is “relentless punishment.” The starting point is trying to sort out the facts and figure out what Ravi did. It’s not unending punishment. Ten years from now, Ravi’s ministry will be largely forgotten.

Even *if* these allegations are true, there is no doubt that God actively blessed my dad and did so right up until he passed.

Putting the *if* in asterisks when your father’s own ministry (where Ravi’s daughter is the CEO) has acknowledged that there is truth in the sexual misconduct allegations is pretty bold.

Saying *if* these allegations are true is also a further slap in the face to the victims. Because it’s highlighting Ravi’s accomplishments as if they’re not invalidated because of his conduct. Saying *if* it’s true, but then following it up with talking of worldly successes makes it seem as if the truth doesn’t really matter.

what these individuals are saying – along with any person or organization that wants to cancel my dad – is that God was wrong to do so, so we must now correct God’s blessing/mistake by erasing my dad and his voice.

This is truly the low point of the whole statement.

Ravi isn’t the one who was wrong. Anyone who thinks Ravi was wrong for being a predator is wrong (and sinful).

Absolutely absurd and disgusting.

Also this is a dangerous way for any Christian to think. Acting as though anyone who’s successful in ministry is somehow untouchable because “God blessed them.” How is any successful ministry leader to be held accountable?

There are all sorts of prosperity preachers who peddle a false gospel, travel the world, and enrich themselves. That doesn’t mean they’re all good.

Not just with ministry, but in life, all sorts of scoundrels are prosperous.

It’s also not doing the leader any favor to put them a position of unchecked authority. Because people are sinful, and without accountability, it’s very tempting to use power to excuse, initiate, and cover up our sins.

What this whole incident has shown is that Pharisees still run rampant in Christian culture when someone allegedly falls.

Oooh, I see. So now you’re a pharisee if you think it’s wrong for people to be sexual predators.

Final thought

I was looking at my Facebook memories today. Eight years ago today, when I was a seminary student at Trinity Evangelical Divinity School (where Ravi went), I got to see Ravi speak on campus. It meant a lot to me. I had always loved Ravi. I know many people who were fans of Ravi’s teaching and books hate seeing one of our modern day heroes disgraced. But truth should matter more.

I went through this statement because so many of these points and sentiments are things I hear and see from other Christians. Trying to explain it away and ignore what happened, as if that’s somehow virtuous or gracious.

Truth matters and his victims matter. It does not serve them well when we paint Ravi like he’s the victim. He already tried to do that during his lifetime.

Full statement:

The last few weeks have been a brutal twist in an already painful season. I have not been given much of a voice in the process, but I am currently trying to find the best platform through which to share some things in the wake of all this. In the meantime I will say this:

First, RZIM does not speak for me. They have formed their own opinion. But it does not dictate mine. I do not agree with them for legitimate reasons. I will not, however, debate those differences publicly.

Second, in either case (innocent or guilty), I think the way this has been discussed by Christian media and leaders is an absolute disgrace.

Regarding some specific individuals who were once my colleagues, how “brave” you are to aggressively take on on a man who can’t even defend himself, as well as attack his grieving family who is far more hurt and blindsided by this situation than you can ever be. And how “righteous” you are to think that we must continually pile on our punishment AFTER he has already faced the ultimate judge. God chose to spare Dad from all this by calling him home when we did. But how “virtuous” of you to insist that you hand out the relentless punishment and humiliation that God saw no place for in dad’s lifetime.

Even *if* these allegations are true, there is no doubt that God actively blessed my dad and did so right up until he passed. His impact was only getting greater. So what these individuals are saying – along with any person or organization that wants to cancel my dad – is that God was wrong to do so, so we must now correct God’s blessing/mistake by erasing my dad and his voice. “That’s a bold strategy, Cotton, let’s see if it pays off for him.”

What this whole incident has shown is that Pharisees still run rampant in Christian culture when someone allegedly falls. Its just now they use laptops instead of stones. They are cruel, and their disgusting rush to plant their self righteous flag in my dad’s shattered legacy betrays the truth about them – “for the mouth speaks what the heart is full of.”

Finally, and most importantly, nothing could change how much I love my dad and miss him. I am still proud to be his son.

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41 responses to “Son of Ravi Zacharias lashes out as people call for accountability”

  1. Steven Baughman Avatar
    Steven Baughman

    Well written and well reasoned. Nathan Zacharias tells us something about the family culture of “the great apologist of our time.“. Nathan is a sloppy a thinker Who doesn’t care about victims. He’s blinded by Ravi idolatry. Thank you for this blog post.

    1. Thank you for your comment. That means a lot coming from the expert.

    2. John M. Avatar
      John M.

      Obviously Nathan has an emotional attachment, so his opinion may not be unbiased. But I doubt we have any evidence to suggest that this tells us something about their family culture, especially others in the family so far said almost nothing. It seems to me that you have some unusual bias against Z., from what I learned by looking into it, I think he was a great apologist with his speeches, whether or not he was a woman abuser. I find it distasteful to characterize Nathan as a “sloppy thinker” from one item. I don’t know Z, but something strikes as unusual when you even take Daniel’s exposition elsewhere as a major issue when we all know that different groups interpret things differently, otherwise you wouldn’t have all those denominations!!

      1. It seems like you’ve made up your mind that you’re unwilling to be convinced of the fact, because you’ve created a burden of proof that makes it impossible to satisfy. When you talk about court rooms and the constitution. This is not a trial. This is an independent investigation about which people can have an opinion. There’s overwhelming evidence. Christians (I’m not sure if you are or not. Not a judgment, I just don’t know where you’re coming from) should be able to take the evidence and claims of multiple women and realize that there’s merit to what they’re saying. I don’t think it serves them well to ignore them. I don’t have “unusual bias.” I want the truth. You don’t seem to care about the truth when you’re applying court standards to something that is not a court case. You bring up that Ravi can’t defend himself. These allegations started coming to light during his lifetime and he lied.

      2. John M. Avatar
        John M.

        No, Pastor Benner, I have not made up my mind, all I can say is I don’t have enough information and several unanswered questions remain to make up my mind. The burden of proof is normal, get accounts from both sides. In this case one side is absent, in that case we need sufficiently strong evidence for us to conclude that even if the other side has a chance they cannot refute the available evidence. We are nowhere close to it on this case. First take the Thompson case. I don’t understand why she asked for money if Z. doesn’t tell the story to the Board. She says she wasn’t interested in money. So, wouldn’t it be best had she send the entire file to the Board rather than sending that demand letter asking Z. to tell his version to the Board? If the objective was to let the Board know about it, it was best to go directly to them. Then they would have known the entire history, with records, and could have taken proper steps to address the issue at the proper time.
        You mentioned there was one complaint when he was alive from a therapist. I think as a part of her license requirement she is legally required to report such incidents to some authority; in my state for example if a client asks for anything beyond normal therapeutic massage (especially crossing the line on harassment, let alone abuse and assault) she should report that to the police. One therapist said she witnessed inappropriate behavior 50 times, and she did not report that even once? Same about the rape allegation. If it was rape, it was her moral and legal obligation to report that for so many reasons, the least one is to protect someone else from future abuse. Now, when he cannot do anything, what is the point of bringing all of these, as anonymous sources. Now we have Cuomo’s case, and he and his known accusers will have a chance to address the allegation, and in one case she even made a report and told others. That is more credible, but still I will not make up my mind until I hear the details of allegations and how the governor will explain them. That is the normal standard, we cannot just believe victims’ account without sufficient evidence, John Demjanjuk would have been executed in that case even though the victims were completely truthful with absolutely no malicious objectives (of course, it is in a different context).
        Even though it was an external investigation, I do not know whether the investigators were in anyway biased. For example, in arson investigation it is well known that there are mainly two biases: Expectation bias and Confirmation bias, depending on the background of the investigators, which can lead to opposite conclusions. It is also well known that people can arrive at opposing conclusions using the same data. That is why we need to hear allegations and explanations from both sides.
        In conclusion, I am in no way suggesting that any harassment is permissible, I am suggesting the opposite, that it should be reported and prevented quickly so that such abuse will not continue and the victims can get proper care at the right time, not years after. In this case, I don’t see any benefit to anyone – if the accounts are correct, victims suffered a lot which cannot be corrected this late time other than to give them money, the “abuser” is no longer accountable. If the allegations are false, and the “respondent” cannot answer them, then we can tarnish someone’s reputation. So, in this case, I do not know the facts or the truth simply because of the lack of proper evidence, identity, and documentations. Personally, I didn’t even know much about Z., I did watch some of his talks in the past few days and I think he can speak very well. Although I don’t particularly agree with how he reaches some of his conclusions!!
        Thank you for your response, I just wanted to explain why I am hesitant to make a conclusion.

      3. Thank you for reading m and your thoughts!

  2. Louise Cloete Avatar
    Louise Cloete

    Josh, I am relieved to see that you have written about this heartbreaking and difficult-to-understand-and-accept situation.

    I read the statement written by the late Ravi’s Son, and my heart felt heavier and heavier, as I read further. I felt truly burdened and troubled thereafter.

    I never knew Ravi, but was well accqainted with his ministry and literature and held him in very high esteem. I was downcast and greatly saddened when he became ill and I committed him and his family to the Lord, in prayer, for a number of months.
    I only heard about his indiscretions in November 2020 and I can honestly say, that it came upon my understanding like a serious hammer blow. I was gobsmacked and felt it could ABSOLUTELY NOT BE! But, with some extra reading and pondering, the sad truth became apparent.

    You have spoken to the statement so meaningfully, sensibly, regardfully and truthfully. I found myself saying “ Yes, Yes”, a few times. Thank you, Josh.
    It is so important that someone has been brave enough to address this.

    My heart aches for the victims, especially the lady, who will only be able to find closure, when she can be released from the burdensome NDA.
    My prayers will now be for her and also for Margie Zacharias, that she will do the right thing, and no longer hold anyone hostage and imprisoned.

    Ravi Zacharias had an incredible ministry, but this is a dark stain on his character and name. His family (the Zachariass) should do all in their power, to desist from wrecking more lives, in their attempts to whitewash and aportion blame elsewhere, for these incidents.

    May God help them.

    1. Thank you so much for reading and commenting. I truly appreciate that. It’s such an important scandal that Christians need to be paying attention to.

      1. busymethis Avatar
        busymethis

        Who made you judge and jury Josh Benner?? What right have you to weigh in at all on this issue?? I’ve never met you or know anything about you or any so called ministry you have….. but your blogs about the Zacharias family tell me all I need to know!! You are more interested in spreading rumors, gossip and sensationalizing on pain than you are in preaching the gospel, so I’m not wasting any more time on you and I’d encourage the few other followers you have to do the same

      2. There’s an official report that was commissioned by RZIM. it’s not gossip.

  3. Reading the words from Ravi’s son was difficult. All children, including adult children, want to believe the best in their parents. To entertain the idea that a parent was not who you thought he/she was is a difficult pill to swallow. So for that reason alone, I cut him a bit of slack. It’s going to take some time and wrestling with this to get to the point of acceptance – – – if that ever happens.

    Thanks for your thoughtful post. I’m the blogger who originally posted Lori Anne’s personal account in 2017.

    1. Thank you so much. I’m truly honored that you read my post. Thank you for your work in helping bring this to light. It’s a story that people need to know about, especially Christians.

      1. Yes, it is. I’ve exposed a few big name wolves. It’s difficult to see the most common response time and again which is to immediately lash out at victims . . . as if they need more guilt/shame heaped on them. These women who come forward are the true heroes. The emotional and spiritual battles they face after coming forward – no one will ever fully understand. I try to keep up with the survivors whose stories I’ve shared . . . . so many of them never recover. That makes this kind of abuse even more insidious.

        We must do better, so thank you for bringing this part of the Ravi story to light. It is so important that people understand all of the ramifications of clergy sexual misconduct. It’s far more than just the victim/perpetrator. Thanks, Josh!

      2. I really appreciate it. I’ve been looking through your blog, and I can email you, but I was curious if you’d ever be willing to come on my podcast and talk about church abuse? (not necessarily only discussing Ravi, but abuse in general within the church).

      3. Absolutely, Josh. Feel free to email me at spiritualsb@gmail.com.

  4. manickam gunasekaran Avatar
    manickam gunasekaran

    Ravi was a true man of God but he may been weak in his flesh. He is dead now and no living person can be made to hold accountable to another mans private mis deeds . These draconian assault on Ravi and eventualy on the Christian Religion as a whole is unjustifiableand meaningless. Ravi is not here to have a basic listening for his explanationof the events attributed on him and it is bad on natural justice. The women also need solation and all involved need to be emphathetically approached . We all need to approach the issue with a sincere prayer that God and God alone should help us to have peace in the present turbulant timings

    1. You’re making excuses for Ravi and mitigating how seriously we should take his actions because he’s dead. Then you talk about how we must care for the victims. That involves getting to the truth. You’re either for Ravi or the victims. You can’t play both sides.

      1. busymethis Avatar
        busymethis

        Victims?? How many police reports were filed??? How many times were “victims” willing to be in the same situations?? This whole thing smells of a satanic attack on a righteous man of God!! True Christians are discerning and don’t fall for the #metoo crap
        Not every one who cries sexual misconduct is truthful!! Many women are easily bought off to lie!! Grow up and smarten up if you’re claiming to be a Christ follower

  5. Tropical Lamb Avatar
    Tropical Lamb

    Your critique of Nathan’s comments was “spot-on”. It would be wonderful if believers would critique their religion as well, in an objective, 3rd person, out-group type of way.

  6. Many wolves in sheep’s clothing. Ravi Zacharias will fulfill these verses below

    21 “Not everyone who says to Me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but the one who does the will of My Father who is in heaven will enter. 22 Many will say to Me on that day, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in Your name, and in Your name cast out demons, and in Your name perform many miracles?’ 23 And then I will declare to them, ‘I never knew you; leave Me, you who practice lawlessness.’ -Matthew 7:21-23

    Many fake Christians have flourishing ministries, but behind close doors, they are like one without God’s law doing that which they preach against.

    For example. Judas Iscariot was used by the Lord Jesus Christ to go out, in pairs, and cast out demons, heal the sick, and preach the good news. The ones that Judas was preaching to didn’t know how evil he really was until the night that he betrayed Jesus Christ and was found out what was in his heart.

  7. I will always believe evil men framed this man to discredit the name of Christ until Christ returns and all will be revealed 2 Timothy 3

    1. So there’s no amount of evidence that can convince you? We need to accept truth.

      1. busymethis Avatar
        busymethis

        Give us real evidence and we can have a better discussion

  8. John M. Avatar
    John M.

    I don’t think he lashed out, he just made his opinion.
    I really don’t know what exactly happened. But a report from a law firm is just like a police report, in fact I think a police report is more reliable because they can use the subpoena power to get information that this law firm doesn’t have. Yet we don’t make a conclusion about someone’s guilt based on a police report or arrest, in which case we don’t need any courts or trials. Many prosecution cases are dismissed in the courts. So taking this report as the whole truth is a mistake, and I find your dismissal of the claim that he cannot defend himself rather unusual. .
    I have not seen any communications between RZ and Ms. Thompson prior to the last set of emails, to find out how it all started and who asked what. Without that I cannot make an opinion. Effect of Fifth Amendment applies here too and a lack of disclosure does not mean guilt. Also, without knowing who these massage therapists are or how would they stand up in cross-examination, I cannot gauge the validity of their statements. What they say may be true, it is possible, but I have insufficient evidence now to believe it.

    1. busymethis Avatar
      busymethis

      AMEN!! How naïve and ignorant so many in the Christian community are being toward a man who gave his life, health and family to the ministry of the gospel!! How easy would it be to plant photos, pay a dozen females to say certain things and set the stage for a great deception!!

  9. “I tell you, on Judgment Day people will give an account for every thoughtless word they have uttered.” -Matthew 12:26

    Josh Benner, you’d be wise to tread lightly on how you are so easily rushing in to condemn a man of God based purely on hearsay, slander, and gossip. You defend a dishonest person like Lori Anne Thompson who groomed Ravi by approaching him with her husband back in 2014 and I tell you, you will give an account, yes. My heart deeply grieves not for the so-called ‘victims’ but solely for those of you who supported Ravi up until the point these false accusations were made against him. That is cowardly and sinful, friend.

    God have mercy on you, nonetheless.

    1. How exactly do you know that it’s hearsay? Are you saying there’s no way the allegations are true?

      1. busymethis Avatar
        busymethis

        How do you know they aren’t hearsay??? You’ve made yourself a judge and jury and are doing nothing but spreading deceit and programs that isn’t yours to speak about!!!

  10. Preethi Avatar
    Preethi

    I strongly feel that the allegations are made up….

    1. His own ministry had a report done which found to the contrary.

      1. puliyeloutlookcom Avatar
        puliyeloutlookcom

        Josh Benner: Indeed, “We need to accept the truth”, as you say. “What is truth?” Pilate asked, and like you did not wait for an answer. You will get your answer when you get to meet the Father.

        I agree with the sentiments of John M, hake bomb and Preeti above.

        Sorry, you do not have the exclusive access to truth and you must have the humility to recognise. Only Father knows. And it will be revealed to you in time.

        Nathan Zacharias is rightfully entitled to his thoughts concerning his Dad. I respect his thoughts and feelings as also those of Margie as well as Sarah, Naomi who are all hurting because of your farcical Pharisee-like attitude.

        And neither you nor Steve Baughman and others who have made it your/their life’s mission to denigrate a man who was used by God, have any business to get on your high horses and play holier than thou. Can you cast the first stone? So, just walk away… Judge not, that ye be not judged etc.

      2. Because we aren’t called upon to ignore sin. Because he has victims who matter. Because when we ignore what Ravi does, we empower others to be abusive because people like you refuse to accept the truth. You quoting pilate out of context and acting like we shouldn’t seek the truth in this case is intellectually lazy.

      3. You’re also completely wrong when you want to blame me and people who do care about what he did and act like it’s us who are hurting his family. Ravi did that. I’m not the bad guy.

      4. busymethis Avatar
        busymethis

        Josh Benner, maybe you are the bad guy!! Who are you anyway??? What ministry have you founded and dedicated your life to?? What right do you have to propagate ANY OF THIS??
        If you’re so naïve and ignorant to believe the #metoo crap and don’t recognize the facts that many people in this cancel culture want to destroy truth, then you don’t deserve a platform!!!
        Do us all a favor, close your blog about the Zaharias family, sit down and keep my mouth shut

      5. So because Ravi founded a powerful ministry, his morals cannot be questioned? It’s that attitude of bowing down to power and influence that lets predators prey.

      6. busymethis Avatar
        busymethis

        How convenient are the words predator, prey, victims…. they devalue and de- humanize everyone involved…. the only power and influence Ravi had was given to him but God…. it appears the real “predators” are the RZIM board and other senior leaders who had a well planned coup ready….. Ravi’s home going just sped up their timeline

      7. busymethis Avatar
        busymethis

        That report was pathetic at best!!! Completely 1 sided, filled with inflammatory conjecture and assumption…. not your business to be propagating

  11. Josh Benner, some of the defenses offered up here in response to your blog post are
    illustrative of how abuse can persist for so long. It is revealing that some are deliberately confusing others by alleging that believing the findings of the investigation MUST be an attack on Christianity itself. No abuser succeeds alone… there is always a story to hide behind, someone to cooperate, someone to obey. Abusers in positions of power have ways of moving people out of their way if they question, pay attention, or fail to be loyal enough.

    The firm conducting this investigation had no interest in presenting findings which were false, unjust, and unvetted, nor did they have any interest in concealing what really happened. Their objective was to find the truth, which has to be a higher purpose than the preservation of a reputation or a memory, a dynasty or an estate.

    I feel compassion for the deep disappointment and shame that a family must feel, and I think that if they could come to terms with the findings of the investigation, they would find that there are people ready to support them and help them make their way through this nightmare – as well as make some sense of peace with the past. I hope that someday they will find friendship, reconciliation, and restoration among people of faith – people with conviction for truth and devotion to a God whose goodness far exceeds that of any earthly father,

  12. busymethis Avatar
    busymethis

    The firm that conducted the “investigation” is under indictment for other wrongful “investigations” and I have no doubt the Zacharias family will also file suit against them!! It’s tragic that slander is so easily taken as truth simply because a woman “says so”! TSB, I’ve perused your site and your comments about how you’ve taken “wolves down”…. you obviously have an ace to grind and I’m sorry for any past you’ve experienced….. but the best thing about Jesus is His freeing you from your past. It appears you’re using your past to take any opportunity to destroy lives ….. it’s suspicious that you say you’re part in bringing this “out”🤔.

    1. I have never said I’ve taken wolves down. There are brave people who do the real work to expose abuse in the church. I just sometimes comment on those stories.

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