It’s hard to believe that it was only a year ago that I sent a message to a woman on eHarmony who I thought looked cute and seemed nice.
I had no expectations. If anything, I assumed nothing would materialize. Why wouldn’t I have thought that? I lived in Minnesota, she was in Georgia, about to move to St. Louis.
I’m a planner. I like to have a plan, a backup plan, a backup backup plan.
But if you had told me that day of the things that would happen over the next few months, I never would have believed it. From that first conversation, in less than five months, she found a job, moved to Minnesota, we got engaged.
Married in October.
A few years ago, I wrote out a 3 year plan. It was fairly detailed. I had goals for every month. At some point, I forgot about that list until a couple years ago when I found that spreadsheet. Almost nothing I had written out happened the way I had planned for it to happen.
It’s good to have goals and things we’re working towards, but it’s also important to be flexible to life. Because things don’t go to plan. But sometimes the things we didn’t plan for give us some of our most wonderful blessings and experiences in life.
I’ve been struck by this thought for the last couple weeks. That day, a year ago, was one of the most important days of my life. But I didn’t know it at the time.
I’m so thankful for Kari and for this past year. I always knew that, despite its challenges, marriage would be awesome.
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Josh Benner 