Sometimes the “not my type” person is actually your type

So you’ve had one relationship after another (after another) fail.

You meet someone else. And they’re unlike the previous people you go for. “She’s not my type.”

Maybe the people who you think are your type aren’t really your type.

I’m not saying to be like George Costanza in Seinfeld and just do the opposite of every inclination you have.

But we can get into bad dating patterns. I’m not saying everyone needs to look for a different type of person when a relationship ends. But I think it’s good to be reflective of the factors that cause relationships to end.

One important question to ask is: are the types of people I date bringing out the best in me? Or are they a constant source of stress and frustration?

It can be to keep going for similar types of people and falling into similarly dysfunctional relationships.

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Josh Benner is the associate pastor at Cornerstone Evangelical Free Church in Fergus Falls, Minnesota and has a Master of Divinity from Trinity Evangelical Divinity School. He enjoys writing about faith and culture. He lives with his wife Kari in Minnesota.

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