As 2018 comes to a close, I am sharing some of my top posts from this year.
A recent article from NBC talks about a Massachusetts family who are raising their twin boys without a gender. The idea behind this parenting philosophy is to allow the twins to decide for themselves when they’re older.
In the story, the mother made the fair point about how we do have ways how we stereotype little boys and little girls that aren’t always helpful. Many raise girls to be prissy and “girlie,” while boys are raised to be tough and to not cry. These aren’t necessary aspects of masculinity and femininity, on that point, I agree. However to combat those stereotypes, we don’t need to raise children without gender. There are other, healthier approaches. (more…)
I originally read about this story on the DailyWire.
A recent article from a Brown University researcher named Lisa Littman was published on the subject of rapid-onset gender dysphoria. In short, there can be a social component to issues with gender identity.
The article suggests the hypothesis that:
friends and online sources could spread certain beliefs. Examples include the belief that non-specific symptoms such as feeling uncomfortable in their own skins or feeling like they don’t fit in — which could be a part of normal puberty or associated with trauma — should be perceived as gender dysphoria; the belief that the only path to happiness is transition; and the belief that anyone who disagrees with the teen is transphobic and should be cut out of their life.
Brown University has pulled the study offline. In a statement from the Dean of Brown University School of Public Health, she said:
Independent of the University’s removal of the article because of concerns about research methodology, the School of Public Health has heard from Brown community members expressing concerns that the conclusions of the study could be used to discredit efforts to support transgender youth and invalidate the perspectives of members of the transgender community.
So the article has been removed because: “conclusions of the study could be used to discredit efforts to support transgender youth and invalidate the perspectives of members of the transgender community.”
So we must therefore hide from research because it’s unpopular and doesn’t fit an agenda. The research results are unpopular and what is necessary is to proactively seek out studies that suggest the opposite findings.
Truth should speak for itself. Truth is inherently worthy of being known. If truth is going to be suppressed because it might “discredit efforts to support transgender youth,” then there can be no honest discussion on the subject.
Josh Benner is the associate pastor at Cornerstone Evangelical Free Church in Fergus Falls, Minnesota and has a Master of Divinity from Trinity Evangelical Divinity School. He enjoys writing about faith and culture. He lives with his wife Kari in Minnesota.
It’s becoming somewhat of a buzz phrase that a person’s gender is a cultural construct.
This idea flatly contradicts the wisdom of human experience and long established cultural norms.
But more importantly, this thinking contradicts God’s creation. God designed men and women in his creation. Our gender is an essential part of our being. Until the last couple years, our society was in pretty solid agreement on this subject. Today, I still believe most people understand this but there is a culture war, and it’s easier to go along with this progressive agenda than to stand for truth. (more…)
A recent article from NBC talks about a Massachusetts family who are raising their twin boys without a gender. The idea behind this parenting philosophy is to allow the twins to decide for themselves when they’re older.
In the story, the mother made the fair point about how we do have ways how we stereotype little boys and little girls that aren’t always helpful. Many raise girls to be prissy and “girlie,” while boys are raised to be tough and to not cry. These aren’t necessary aspects of masculinity and femininity, on that point, I agree. However to combat those stereotypes, we don’t need to raise children without gender. There are other, healthier approaches.
It’s absolutely unnecessary for a person to take an otherwise normal, healthy baby and to then introduce confusion into their child’s life. Is letting a person “decide” their gender so important?
I hear people talk about how complicated gender is.
For the vast majority of people, it’s pretty simple. And so I return to my question, why introduce confusion? Why introduce additional complexity?
I know to some this seems progressive and enlightened.
It’s unwise.
I saw a video a few years ago of a British woman who was doing this with her son. It’s heartbreaking.
If your approach to parenting is doing something that society has historically not done and which contradicts the wisdom of human experience: it’s wrong. Raising a child is not the time to try new experiments.
The idea that you can raise a kid without gender and then let them decide their gender is self-defeating.
The idea that you can take a baby boy or girl and raise this child neutral of gender, and later let them decide their gender, it’ll be in the context of them having been raised as unaware to their gender. When they decide which gender they want to be, it’ll be from a context of not having been raised according to a particular gender. It’s not like you’ll decide you want to be a boy and instantly know how to do it. You weren’t shown! You weren’t taught! You were intentionally kept in the dark.
Part of the justification that I’ve seen is that this helps a child to embrace their identity. I would argue that it actually raises a child ignorant of an important aspect of their identity. This style of parenting takes away the foundation of manhood and womanhood.
And for what purpose?
According to a 2016 study by the Williams Institute, transgendered people make up just over one half of one percent of the American population. And the transgender life is not an easy one. Tragically, the rate of attempted suicides within that community is 40% according to The Report of the 2015 U.S. Transgender Survey.
With the Massachusetts family, the mother is an engineer and talks of the gender stereotypes in her field, how it is often male-dominated. That’s probably true. But how does it help that to raise boys as if they’re not?
Gender comes from God. It’s fundamental to his creation of humanity. God made men and women and we are both created in his image. We should celebrate masculinity and femininity. Men and women compliment each other.
Josh Benner is the associate pastor at Cornerstone Evangelical Free Church in Fergus Falls, Minnesota and has a Master of Divinity from Trinity Evangelical Divinity School. He enjoys writing about faith and culture. He lives with his wife Kari in Minnesota.
Note: this post discusses what I see as a logical paradox in the current debate about abortion as a means of gender selection. Full disclosure: I am personally pro life.
I’ve written before about the topic of gender selective abortion. In developing nations, the process of aborting a fetus (typically of a girl) based on gender is common. I read an interesting article this afternoon in the Montreal Gazette discussing how the practice is also becoming more common in North America among certain ethnic groups, while outlining different steps which the medical community has taken in an effort to curb this from happening.
The Gazette sites an editorial from the Canadian Medical Association Journal which urges doctors to wait until the pregnancy is at 30 weeks before they inform parents as to the gender of the fetus. (more…)
