I hope your wedding day is the day you love each other the least

I hope your wedding day is the day when you love each other the least.

I hope the love is there.

But I hope a week, a month, a year, 10 years, 50 years later, that you love each other more than you did on your wedding day. I hope it’s a deeper, richer, fuller love.

Marriage and life together is a good picture of sanctification.

When you come to faith, you are saved. For the rest of your life, and eternity, the blood of Jesus washes away your sins. But the work isn’t done. It’s a lifelong process of growing and maturing in the faith which you believe.

How long does it take to be a Christian? A moment. And a lifetime.

And you become a spouse in a moment. But it’s a lifetime of growing.

Faith and marriage both have there ups and downs. There beautiful moments and their times of challenge.  In both faith and marriage, some will be lazy and not do very much with it. For those people, they’ll never have a good relationship with God. For people who do this in marriage, they’ll never have as good marriage as it could have been.

It takes work. It takes learning from mistakes. It takes admitting when you’re wrong. It takes biting your tongue. It takes choosing to love someone.

It takes dying to yourself.

Josh Benner is the associate pastor at Cornerstone Evangelical Free Church in Fergus Falls, Minnesota and has a Master of Divinity from Trinity Evangelical Divinity School. He enjoys writing about faith and culture. He lives with his wife Kari in Minnesota.

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